Who you think you are is also intimately connect with how you see yourself treated by others. Many people complain that others do not treat them well enough, “I don’t get any respect, attention, recognition, acknowledgment,” they say. “I’m being taken for granted.” When people are kind, they suspect hidden motives. “Others want to manipulate me, take advantage of me. Nobody loves me.”
Who they think they are is this: “I am a needy ‘little me’ whose needs are not being met.” This basic misperception of who they are creates dysfunction in all their relationships. They believe they have nothing to give and that the world or other people are withholding from them what they need. Their entire reality is based on an illusory sense of who they are. It sabotages situations, mars all relationships. If the thought of lack—whether it be money, recognition, or love—has become part of who you think you are, you will always experience lack. Rather than acknowledge the good that is already in your life, all you see is lack. Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation of all abundance.
The fact is: Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world. You are withholding it because deep down you think you are small and that you have nothing to give.
Try this for a couple of weeks and see how it changes your reality: Whatever you think people are withholding from you—praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on—give it to them. You don’t have it? Just act as if you had it, and it will come.Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving. You cannot receive what you don’t give. Outflow determines inflow. Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you already have, but unless you allow it to flow out, you won’t even know that you have it.– Eckhart Tolle (via mindofataurus) Via Brittany Josephina
Pay attention to the people that you keep in your circle, and even your vicinity. There are people in your life who can only engage in conversation with you through negative talk and gossip. If we can only connect when it involves bashing or putting someone down, I don’t particularly want to engage with you. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about, and perhaps, even done it yourself. Trust me, I have and I’ve grown. It’s the situation where you can only gossip with a person, but never really connect with and discuss things that we love or care about. We gotta be careful of that. There are people who will support your misery and condemn your happiness. It doesn’t mean they’re evil. It simply shows that they need healing. Remember, in honoring yourself, you honor others as well. Treat them with respect and compassion, but also remember, this doesn’t imply you actually have to have a close relationship with them. Know what proximity each person in your life stands in. Things don’t have to be all or nothing. There are people who you can hang out with for a night out. People who are good for a weekly chat. People who are your best friend. People who you simply don’t connect with. Let people play their respective roles.
Animals getting help from people.
Wonderful. I just can’t get over the name of the pig.
Via Getting Fit and Healthy
When you look around at the six people that you spend the most time with, that’s who you are. I think that in making those decisions in who you are going to be married to, who your friends are going to be, those are really huge, critical, life decisions. Who gets to talk to you everyday, is almost like the food that you eat. It is a very huge critical situation to choose who the people are that you are spending your life with, spending your time with and who you are choosing to give your love and everything to.– Will Smith (via thatkindofwoman)
Apparently I don’t fit into other people’s lives.
(Source: psych-facts)Via That Kind Of Woman
this is the most random ensemble of people i have ever witnessed in 21 years that i have been on this planet
Imagine this season of The Real World.
Think about the first name you were ever called,
and then think how long it took until
you got called a pussy
or a slut,
or a bitch,
or a whore,
all of which are words that fall too close to ‘girl.’
Think about the first time you got called a ‘girl’
and they said it with a sneer.
Like it was a bad thing.
For a boy, it is the lowest degradation to get called a girl.
For a girl, it is the lowest degradation to get called a girl.
Remember, black widow spiders and female praying mantises eat their partners after intercourse.
Remember, it’s the lionesses who hunt.
They come back with bloody muzzles, dragging bloated carcasses as the alpha lion strides around with his mane puffing out.
Remember, it’s only the female mosquitoes who drink blood.
We’re the ones who do the necessary work, dirty our hands,
fuck or fight or both.
We’re often the smaller sex, which makes us a harder target
as we slink close and sink our teeth in.
Remember: we’re deadly.
You should be proud to be called a girl.– 'Most Female Killers use Poison,' theappleppielifestyle. (via theappleppielifestyle) Via SamanthaSays